Should a Porn Star Teach Sex Ed?

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Let’s say you paid for private school for your kid. You expect it to be excellent. You want math geniuses teaching quadratic equations. You want literature scholars teaching English. And you want porn stars teaching sex-ed.

Well I assumed that was the thinking employed by Mark Slater, the soon-to-be-retiring head of The Leys private school in Cambridge, England, when he proposed that sex education class at his school be taught by porn stars.

I was super excited! This makes so much sense. And would be so much better than the sex-education I got in my crappy Alabama public school. But (as happens far too often), I realized that my thinking isn’t like everyone else’s, especially when it comes to sex-positivity.

As it turns out, Slater kinda sucks. The Daily News reports:

A blue movie queen’s tales of the industry would “empower” youngsters to understand the dangers of pornography, [Slater] claimed. He said kids’ easy access to porn was damaging their ability to form fulfilling relationships, reports the Telegraph.

He added that the invited speaker couldn’t be any old actress — and would need to have the “proper values.”

I unfortunately don’t think that by “proper values” he means “consent.”

However, Slater is clearly onto something. Porn is a serious issue, worth addressing in sex-ed. Teaching kids about sex and leaving out porn is kinda like teaching nutrition and leaving out sugar: You may or may not like it, but either way it’s important (and ubiquitous!). I think Slater has a point, porn can certainly retard sexual maturity, lead to destructive unrealistic expectations, and make real-life relations less fun (if a potential lover says they learned how to have sex from porn, run away!). But it can also enhance real-life relations by providing outlets for unmet needs and by helping to make things more interesting. I’d say it’s definitely worth discussing all sides of porn.

But whether sex-ed in and of itself is a good or bad thing, and if good, how comprehensive it should be is a thorny question. I really do understand and sympathize with all sides of it. And it must be noted that this is a private school, with a $43,000 per year price tag. Now, I would not personally pay 43Gs to have my kids hear a porn star, or anyone else, only tell them porn is bad, mmmkay? But I totally respect a parent’s right to do so.

Saying all that, I still think it’s a waste of the porn star’s talent.